Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Apparently some of us are getting older...

Of course I am still incredibly young and vibrant but my daughter is aging. She will be 12 next month and I have been mentally preparing myself to enter the phase of life where I have a child who is in the Young Women's Program at church.

Though I am still incredibly young and vibrant it seems weird that I have arrived at this stage. Because I have a tendency to freak-out I have tried to stave emotional imbalance by reminders and personal awareness of the impending Young Women's experience.

I am thrilled that Miss 'A' will be able to experience so many new things and have so many wonderful women influence her life.

I am less thrilled that this marks the beginning of my children having activities in the evening. I love spending time with them before bed and I know that as they are aging (though I am still incredibly young and vibrant) this type of family time will be less and less frequent.

I was thrown for a loop yesterday when we discovered that though Miss 'A' still has one more month till she is officially a part of this amazing program she needed to attend an activity to certify for Girls Camp this summer.

I drove her to the church right at the time we should have been sitting down to play a game or watch 'America's Funniest Home Videos'. She was nervous but excited but I was mentally unprepared for this momentous event.

On the first day of middle school (while all the kids in the neighborhood walked to the bus by themselves for the first time) my baby wanted me to walk with her. She even held my hand. When we were in view of the kids waiting for the bus I asked if she wanted me to stay with her or go home - she didn't answer but clung to my hand more tightly, pulling me to the bus stop where I waited with her friends. She didn't let go of my hand until it was her turn to get on the bus.

Last night, I tried to hold her hand while we were walking into the church. She sweetly smiled at me as she pulled her hand away. When we got inside I could tell that she was anxious so I asked if she wanted me to stay with her until she found someone that she knew. She told me that she was okay, and still smiling sweetly she walked off.

And so it begins. Though I am still young and vibrant I have entered the phase of life where my children will have evening activities. The phase of life where that time spent together before bed will come to an end. The phase of life where my kids will not need me quite so much anymore. Sniff.

They will be strong - and independent, which is what every young and vibrant Mother wants.

I would just like to make this one request: could someone (I don't care who) provide me with more than a few hours warning so that I can plan my young and vibrant freak-out accordingly?

Please and Thank You.


3 comments:

Gustogirl said...

A daughter in Young Womnen's, that is a huge milestone!!! You are smart to remember how young and vibrant you really are!!

Allie said...

Isn't it amazing how are children are capable of aging while we mothers just remain locked at our peak of youth and vibrance?

You are lucky to have such a sweet girl for a daughter.

Brooke said...

From one young and vibrant mother to another, I have spent many hours trying to convince my husband (and myself) that we will miss these toddler years and the things that seem to drive us crazy...like finding Ruby upstairs in her church clothes today on our freshly cleaned carpet with an open container of Nutella (it wasn't pretty)...and reading your post reinforced those feelings. I am not ready for my kids to begin to walk away, but at least when they reach that phase I can pray they walk sweetly off into Young Women's. Justin is convinced they will just hop on a Harley off to get a tattoo if we don't keep them under lock and key. He wasn't meant to have three daughters.